Sounds familiar? For me this last year and a half it has been a true struggle to not only find “ME TIME,” but to take it and not feel guilty or spend it thinking about how much I miss Duce. Talking with my husband, I have learned that if I need “ME TIME” then all I have to do is ask for it. I can’t assume he or anyone else knows that it is important to me or if it is time. I have to advocate for myself. That has been a struggle, as I am so used to doing everything and being relied by others and being their advocate, that I naturally forget myself. As mommies, that is not okay and should not be acceptable or normal. So as I turned 30 this year, I have made a commitment to myself that I will take “ME TIME” once or twice a month and JUST. DO. ME! That can consist of many things.
Here are just a few examples of how you can spend your “ME TIME”:
- Go get a manicure and pedicure.
- Go to the movies alone and see that chic flick you have been dying to check out.
- Send hubby and child (ren) to the park or museum and paint your toes, do a face mask and watch the embarrassing T.V. that reminds you why your life is so grand.
- Go on a girls trips and leave the pump, nursing bras, yoga pants and sneakers at home.
- Grab your bible, devotion, journal and head to the park for some alone time with Jesus.
- Create a vision board by yourself or with girlfriends.
- Go to the gym or a fun dance class like Zuma or MixxFit.
- Get a full body massage.
- Get your hair done, take a new self and share!
- Go shopping for a new dress, shoes, purse…and more!
- Go for a hike, walk the trails and pray and give thanks.
- Sleep in!
What I want us mommies to take away from this is that you matter. Your health: mental and physical well-being are just as important as you being a great mother, wife, girlfriend, boss and more! If you aren’t indulging in the self-care that is necessary for you to perform at your greatest capacity, then you are cheating others, but most importantly cheating yourself. Throw away the guilt, throw away the pride of “But he/she won’t do it like me. It should be done this way…” Walk away from your many hats you wear everyday and retreat to (NAME). Self-care is one of the best ways to fight Postpartum Depression- a mental disease that plagues new mommies all across the world everyday, during and after pregnancy. So mommas love yourself enough to take some “ME TIME.” Come back refreshed, recharged and ready to tackle that laundry, thos dishes, potty training, a new recipe and loving your husband the best way you know how…because you are magical…you are superwoman…you are fearfully and wonderfully made!
(Philippians 4:13: I can do ALL things through Christ who strengths me. )
~Soli deo Gloria💜
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